When he or she pretends to have an orgasm, is the person who is faking inadvertently harming the relationship? Why would anyone want to fake an orgasm? A 1988 study, conducted by sociologists, revealed that 60% of women occasionally faked having an orgasm. At that time, the study also revealed that only but a few men fake it since they rarely have difficulty climaxing. If they do have trouble, they fake it when they feel they are about to lose their erection, hence fooling their partner

(Today, 25% of men admitted to faking it, some even did it during oral sex. Guys can't falsify ejaculation, but they can fake their moans and movements. Why do they? Like women, they may be tired, stressed or simply having difficulty climaxing, but want their partner to feel good about the experience - www.glamour.com - October 2007)

Another reason why women (and men) choose to pretend is because men consider orgasm proof of their skill in satisfying their partner. And since it's difficult for a man to tell whether their partner climaxed or faked it, most men need to ask, "Did you come?" What is wrong with the truth? Sadly, some people cannot accept the truth. They say they want to hear the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, but the truth is they end up splashing and rolling around in self-pity, verbalizing that it's okay when it's not.

Then, there are some women who fake it to get it over and done with because sex is not such a hot deal to them. You do it. It's finished. To some, career goals and ambition take precedence to sex. They feel comfortable pretending and pleasing their partner at the same time. It works for them and their man's ego is intact.

Of course, a man cannot give you an orgasm. He can only provide the stimulation that contributes to arousal by learning what works for you, and by the way he treats you using the techniques that please you. Unfortunately, the problem is that there are men who do not know how to please their mate, particularly those who have spent their lives having sex randomly and seeking self gratification. Because of this immature lifestyle they end up unable to physically discover what is pleasing to their partners. They never grow into mature adults. This is not to excuse making pretending orgasm a trend. Because if he should discover your deception, the relationship will become hostile, and probably terminate.

So the next time you feel yourself beginning to pretend, ask yourself, Why must I pretend? If you feel you have to please him more than yourself, then he is doing something wrong. This is not to say that you have to climax every time you have sex or that you cannot enjoy sex unless you reach orgasm. But, if you never do, or rarely do, you need to consider that maybe your partner just isn’t the right partner for you.